I should laugh but it's too painful, at S.B.Aiken in particular. The former community organizer and bulwark of, People Against Racist Violence, is now the head priestess of collaborative law in Marin County, so she has street cred. But did she apply the principals of Collaborative Law and fair play to her son's father? Isn't this the ultimate question? Do you walk the talk? Did you do for yourself what you advocate for others? What about your son, did you involve his father in his life? Did you honor the parenting agreement that you attempted with all your brilliance to avoid? Where you honest? Or did you just lie, and lie, and lie because it was so easy? Of course she can always play with the facts. But to be vanquished and disappeared from your child's life is an amazing example of unequaled cruelty; the nature of how this was accomplished is attributable to Suzan Aiken's brilliant evil mind. Psychopaths like SBA always have two shockingly contrary sides to their personalty. I mean, how can one deny in their personal life what they advocate for others in their professional life? Such is a danger. But to answer the question: where did SBA apply the principles of Collaborative Law when it came to her own son, Beinyiam? She didn't. She wouldn't. She couldn't. She changed his name to Mino, and kept on about her business. Swept his father under the rug, declared him a deceased "drug dealer" and went on about saving the world. Because truth and honesty is for fools and she's trying to get over--and she is, big time. Anybody seeking her advice without knowledge of her past, or her conduct in reference to her own son, is a fool. Save your money. The fact is this. If you have two parties with enough respect (not SBA) to put their child first, you don't need these collaborative pimps to milk you of resources necessary to get back on your feet again. Just work it out like mature adults. These two woman, especially SBA, are not mature adults. But for yourself and the sake of your children, keep these lawyers at arms length. For people of color, especially black men, you do not want this racist predator, SBA, involved in your case, PERIOD. Just because she shows up with some dark gigolo, does not mean that disease we are so familiar with isn't surging through her DNA, because it is. And I know from personal experience. If you are so desperate to turn to her, at least ask some basic questions: Why did you cut your son's father completely out of his life, and turn him against that man like a sharp knife? For women, like the feminists in this discussion, who hold even wealthy, upper-class white professional women as perpetual victims of a male dominated world, you may not notice, but the world has grown up around you. This dreadful one-sided scenario no longer applies necessarily. Suzan for one, had all the power, all the resources, all the support, and her son's father had nothing but his black skin which SBA, Mrs. People Against Racist Violence, used against him like a switch-blade; but she's perfectly at home in her lily white Marin County enclave, where the carpetbagger settled after she fled Santa Cruz, California. I still remember her radical revolutionary Marxist talk from the floor of the Bluehouse; and to see where she stand now and what she imparts is absolutely stunning. But this is the face of the New Jim Crow, we call her Jane Crow.